January 3, 2008


"Serendipity. Look for something, find something else, and realize that what you've found is more suited to your needs than what you thought you were looking for."

Lawrence Block

Papa's lobectomy was done last Friday. I can't believe it'll be almost a week tomorrow since his surgery. After removing the lower lobe of his left lung, the doctors found a mass in his lymph node. They took it out and sent it to the pathologist. We heard it's benign. Thank God. He's also scheduled to meet with the oncologist on Monday, the 7th to discuss the chemotherapy.

Ever since we got back from California, we have been discussing endlessly the possibility of moving to the west coast. I've always lived here in the east coast, so I'm naturally partial to living here. But with my husband's parents dealing with medical issues, it doesn't seem fair for my sister-in-law to be shouldering the responsibility of caring for them. After all, she's also married with a baby. She's got her plate full herself.

I've been restless and wanting a change. Then it was followed by so many things that happened to our surprise. We've been here in the east coast for quite sometime now. Maybe a move out west is in order? Maybe it's time to spend time with his family. After all, he's already spent a lot of time with my family. And frankly, living near other family members really does not make a difference. It's not as if we see them often. We hardly see them, if at all. Not much effort to keep in touch either. Sure, they're busy but everyone's busy as well. Who isn't in this day and age? Keeping in touch is something you make time for. My sister Lani does a splendid job of keeping in touch and even seems willing to move with us, if ever (especially if we decide to drive cross-country). And my parents? Said they'll be fine wherever we decide to go. They'll go with us too, if needed.

I remember my previous post "Of families and distance" where I wrote "No one should have to beg for love and attention. No one should have to beg for time to spend with their loved ones." I still stand by what I wrote. I believe it's true.

I also realized after our recent California trip that that same line can very well be said to us by my husband's family. They seemed really happy to see us and to be with us. They made time and exerted effort to spend time with us. They made us feel as if just being there made a difference, even for a short time.

Sure, they're a pretty quiet lot, quite different from my family or any other family we've ever had the good fortune to encounter. But once I got the hang of it, I was fine. Being with them made me realize that they ARE good people. Not particularly expressive emotionally, but a straightforward hardworking bunch. No wonder my husband is very down-to-earth. No airs and pretenses.

So now, I wonder if serendipity is at work here. Perhaps our path is being laid out in front of us. We just have to open our eyes.


Lynn said...

That'd be cool. Much closer too. What, 14 hours? Woot!

... Paige said...

It can be funny how things work out.