March 7, 2008

Woe to her, really

I felt sympathetic for this friend of mine for the longest time. She claimed that she was overworked, overwhelmed, stressed and even harassed. I was all-empathy. Her tale was all-too familiar. The same shoes, the same footsteps. Or so I thought.

Turns out that to say she's been remiss with her duties was an understatement. They weren't done, incomplete, even incorrect. She was way in over her head, but didn't say anything. She acted like a victim and I was only too willing to attend her sympathy party. My reason? I've been there before. I just assumed that she and I have the same or even similar work ethics.

Now I found out that she told far too many lies that are coming out now since she quit. It's disappointing that some of the lies aren't even necessary. Some are just plain stupid. Everything she ever said to anybody at work is now under a cloud of suspicion. Most of the people are saying that everything was a lie. It's not the way to leave a company, no matter how much you hate it. I wish that I can tell her that a good name is still important in this day and age. It doesn't matter if you're young, pretty and educated (that's how she described herself...and oh yeah, people are now questioning her educational accomplishment too) or old, ugly and uneducated.

I feel like I've been made a fool of. The Village Idiot. The one who believed what she was told without even questioning anything. As I told my husband, it's easy to believe what you're told when it's someone you assume is a good person. If it was other people who I know slack off, goof around, pass the buck, etc., I wouldn't be surprised. Or even someone who's been mean to me. But looks ARE deceiving.

I've been thinking about it and realized that I'm not the idiot here.