September 5, 2008

What if?

We play so many roles in our lives. Like me, for instance. First and foremost, I'm me to me. I'm also a daughter, a wife, a sister, a daughter-in-law, a sister-in-law, an aunt, a granddaughter, a cousin, a niece, a goddaughter, a neighbor, a doggy owner/mommy, among other roles. Yet people are most often defined for the role that gets them paid - their role as a worker.

We get evaluated at work for the work done. There are meetings with supervisors to set goals, performance expectations, deadlines; to be evaluated on our competencies; to discuss how else we can learn more from our jobs; and to finally get appraised on our year-long performance. Most of us aim to be great hardworking workers whose efforts are recognized and appreciated, and of course, hoping to be compensated accordingly.

With all these different roles we have, what if the important people in our lives would evaluate us on our performance? How would we fare? Do we consistently exceed expectations, frequently exceed expectations, or partially meet expectations? Are we highly satisfactory? Have we met goals and deadlines (perhaps in the form of promises made and kept)? Have we met expectations, at the very least? Is there room for improvement? If you and your loved ones are asked to describe the condition of your relationship (new, like new, very good, good, acceptable), what would your answers be? Would your answers even match?

What if you discover that you allowed the so-called important relationships in your life to fall by the wayside, completely ignored because work demanded your attention and time yet again?