August 31, 2009

If you love somebody, why set them free?

We all know the Richard Bach quote: "if you love somebody, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were." I got into a bit of a discussion with a good friend - a guy - about this. He was insisting on the merits of letting someone go. How it's like some ultimate sacrifice to do so. After all, it's for love. Which is total baloney to me.

The way I see it, if one of the two parties no longer wish to be involved with the other party, then fine. Let them go. Wish them well and all that. You might still want them around. In fact, perhaps you're being the generous person by letting them go when you still want them, but there's nothing much you can do except cross your fingers, pray to all the gods out there and hope to high heavens that the person will come back. For your sake. Or at least start hoping that the person will notice your ultimate sacrifice. Otherwise, you'll just feel like...well, I don't really know what, but something. Especially when the other person doesn't come back at all. But even then, at least the other person was honest enough, right? Instead of letting the whole excruciating thing drag on for a while.

But if two persons are still in love and love each other like crazy, why bother letting go in the first place? It seems an unnecessary sacrifice that will inflict an even more unnecessary heartache to both of you. Does sacrificing for the person you love by GIVING UP the very person you claim to love make for a truer love?

Oh, just so you know, after all that, my friend and I didn't really reach a consensus.