August 19, 2009

Life and all that

In a couple of hours, I'll be turning another year older. I ended up writing this today.

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Sometimes it's easier to live your life as if it's on pause. You don't take risks. You play it safe and within bounds. You accept what you're told without question. You sit back and watch other people do their thing. You see other people go after what they want - damn the consequences. You feel a twinge of envy, yet you don't see yourself doing the same thing. You fear getting involved with people for fear of getting hurt.

But it's your life. At some point, you have to live your life on your own terms. You have to define how you want your life to be.

You will get hurt. You will cry. You will get accused and falsely accused, cheated, double-crossed, guilt-tripped, judged, lied about, lied to, misled, intimidated, and threatened. At the same time, you will be loved. You will be adored. You will be liked, desired, pampered, fawned over, recognized, appreciated, admired, acknowledged, and remembered.

Pay it forward.
Everyday we experience random acts of kindness from people - small kindnesses, big kindnesses. Give it, take it and share it. If someone loves you, then love them in return...or if that's not possible, simply treat them well. If someone forgives you, then forgive someone in return. Most importantly, forgive yourself. Appreciate people more. Applaud a job well done. Smile.

Keep it to yourself.

If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all. If you hear something bad being said about someone, then let it end with you. Passing it on only fuels the ill will.

Get rid of the damn thing.
Anger, fury, shame, embarrassment, humiliation, inferiority complex, resentment, hate (among others) - these are negative emotions that have its proper time and place. Every now and then, everyone feels worthless, controlled or controlling, manipulative or manipulated, trapped, restricted, pressured, confused, discouraged, insignificant, ignored, neglected, unloved, unwanted, abused, afraid, frightened, threatened, cynical and skeptical. But holding on to such emotions will not do you any good. Give yourself the space to feel them when you must. Then let it go.

No one can beat you down without your permission. If someone belittles you, it's because they think so lowly of themselves that they have to put down other people to make themselves feel better. It doesn't really have anything to do with you. If someone finds what you do unacceptable, then pray that you'll have a more open mind than they have to find what they do acceptable. Bitter people want you to become bitter too. Why let them?

Love the ones who love you. Forget those who don't. You can't force anyone to love you. In the same way no one can force you to love someone. Treat people well, most especially those who love you. Love is nothing to be ashamed of. Other things are far more shameful than love.

Life can be breath-taking. Especially when it's your life. Be astounded. Be amazed.

2 comments:

Lene said...

Happy, happy birthday Cez. I'd wish for something you really need right now in your life.

I know for a fact that you're doing what you're passionate about now and that for me is a great achievement already. Have a blast Cez! :)

Cecilia said...

Thanks for the birthday wish, Lene!