March 26, 2010

A wasted life? I think not!

I remember an uncle and I were at loggerheads a couple of years back. He claimed my sisters and I were wasting our lives. Started lambasting the work we were doing, the courses we finished, and of course, the men we chose. According to him, we were supposed to be doctors and married to doctors as well. Instead we weren't. What shame upon the family name. Fie upon you, sisters!

I wasn't one to shut up really. Told him that he has kids. He should tell them that, so THEY should take up medicine and marry doctors. He got mad, yelled some more about what a waste we are, so I put down the phone on him. In this case, NO ONE insults me and my sibs, and gets away with it. I don't care how old you are. You're not getting my respect. There's no love lost with that one.

I suddenly remembered that incident today. And realized that I'm proud my sisters and I did what we wanted. Only one of the four sibs wanted to be a doctor, but she never pursued that dream. I wanted to be a lawyer, but decided not to go for it. This decision was proven wise when I started working with lawyers, and realized there's no damn way that I'd want such a lifestyle for myself. It's not a life, it's a penance. Just not sure for what.

My husband tells me that I should've gone for that guy from my past who is now a cardiologist. Hubby says that would've made me the most favoritest niece of the clan. But that would merely make me...well, a rider on my doctor/husband's chariot. Not exactly how I imagined my life to be.

Of course, that pigheaded unc of mine failed to consider one thing: would any of us really want to be married to doctors? I don't know about my sisters, but for me, I don't think so. Sure, the money must be fantastic, but the hours, man, the hours! That would drive me crazy! I can't even be all selfish about wanting his time and attention because being a doctor is one of the selfless jobs out there. It'll just make me feel like an utter idiot. So yeah, it's really not something that would suit me.

I'm just glad that our parents didn't say such things to us. Even if they are within their rights to do so.