May 24, 2011

I disagree

A friend posted this in Facebook: ‎"Being nice to someone you dislike doesn't mean you're fake. It means you are mature enough to tolerate your dislike towards them."

About 4 persons "liked" it. I didn't.

Of course, she's more than entitled to be nice to people she dislikes. But it's just not my cup of tea. I've tried being nice to people who aren't. For me, it depends on how often I have to deal with them. If I only see them once in a blue moon, if I don't need to deal with them often, then it's easy. But if I deal with them often enough that it really feels like my teeth's getting pulled, then that's a completely different matter. Because really, I owe it to myself to be true to myself.

What do I do then?
Be civil. We don't need to be overly chummy. We don't need to be ice-cold to each other either. Just polite. I won't go to the extreme of being nice. Through the years, I've learned that some people aren't even worth that.

I don't go by that statement she posted. For me, part of maturity is accepting that you can't like and/or love everyone out there, and yes, also accepting that not everyone out there will like and/or love you too. That's just the way it is.

2 comments:

Jon said...

I agree 100%. I don't have to be the bigger person. I can just be myself as long as I can look myself in the mirror and still can live with it.

Cecilia said...

Exactly.