March 16, 2017

The quote that got this post started

"A strong friendship doesn’t need daily conversation, doesn’t always need togetherness. As long as the relationship lives in the heart, true friends will never part." ~ Unknown
Unfortunately, whoever wrote that never gets any proper credit. Surprisingly, it's been doing the rounds on Facebook for years now. In fact, I've been seeing it again in the past few weeks. But I don't really agree with it.

I mean, it's a cop-out. If you don't hear from your friends or if you hardly see them, then what the heck is going on? Sure, you might "live in their hearts" (yep, quotation marks intended), but if no one's making the effort to keep in touch, then honestly, it's just a matter of time before that relationship dissolves. No one is ever too busy for the people that are important to them. If they don't have time for you, then you're not important to them. It's really that simple.

Communication is important in any relationship. Isn't that one of the factors that keep relationships strong? Not just a romantic relationship, but any relationship. In this day and age, there are so many ways to keep in touch.

Sad truth? If your friends aren't keeping in touch, then it's because they're choosing not to keep in touch. Aren't we living in an age when everyone's hands are constantly glued to their phones? So what are the odds that they didn't see your message/s? How tough is it for them to simply type, "hey, just checking's everything?" and send it your way? Or even a simple, "sup?"

Stop breaking your heart.

Stop thinking "if I reach out more, then they'll reply."

They won't. They know that they can keep pushing you to your limit, and you'll keep moving that line to accommodate them. They know you're that nice, you're that much of a pushover. Even worse, they just don't care enough that you care that much. Ouch! You're doing too much caring for the two of you, but you're the one left empty-handed.

"They're busy", you say. But who isn't? Surely, you've also got a lot on your plate. You don't just spend your days staring into space and dreaming idle dreams. Yet you find the time.

Let's face it, not everyone is worth your time and effort. Others simply are a waste. That's just the way it is.

If you relish the idea of being described as thoughtful, sweet and caring by your friend/s, and if it's OK with you, then by all means, keep at it. But if you wonder why you're the one constantly giving and the other party keeps taking, then stop.

Sometimes some people don't want to have anything to do with you anymore, but they're too chicken to admit it.

Sometimes it's better to admit that you've grown far apart, instead of trying in vain to hold on to what you had before. If, by chance, you end up coming full circle in life (because life, as we all know, is full of surprises), then that will just be one of life's little surprises. But don't hold your breath on that one. You might get disappointed.

Everyone needs a friend. Find your circle. The ones who contact you out of nowhere just to check how you're doing. Keep friendships that are worth keeping, that are worthy of who you are and how you are.

Trust me, I've been that thoughtful friend all these years. But I learned that nothing beats having friends who are willing to put in the same effort as you do.
Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness. Euripides
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iamarglene said...

I couldn't agree more. My sentiments nowadays. :)