July 22, 2016

An Open Letter to My Best Friend

You're at a crossroads again.

I can stand idly by, listen to you complain endlessly, feel sorry about yourself and even crash and burn. But I care for you far too much to let you do that. You've had tough times. Never-ending, it seems. You get stuck in situations that you feel suck you in slowly but surely. I can tell you all sorts of consoling things. Heck, I can even tell you things you don't want to hear. But I care enough about you that I have to point out certain things that you already know, but you need reminding.

Stop saying yes to every job opportunity that comes your way because you want to learn new things. The end result is always the same. You realize that it doesn't really interest you. You get stuck because you already learned so much, it seems a waste to just walk away. But honestly, it's the novelty, right? Once it wears off, you don't like it anymore. If you want to learn something new, take up knitting or crocheting. For goodness' sake, take up a new hobby, NOT a new job.

Stop thinking bosses will help you move up your career ladder. It's your career, not theirs. They usually admit it anyway - they're in it for themselves. Not you. Not the team. They aim to move up. You're just one of the people who can get them where they want to be. Learn from them. Seriously.

Stop being indecisive about your career. What do YOU want to do? Do you want to keep working for companies? Are you looking for someone to take care of you and give you regular paychecks? Honestly, longevity with companies is now just a pipe-dream. You know you'd rather be your own boss.

Stop allowing fear to get the better out of you. Come to think of it, it's not really getting the better out of you. By not going after what you want, you're suppressing what you're really good at. You're always afraid of not having enough, having bills to pay. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Stop being so scared! You are braver than you think.

Stop acting like you don't deserve anything good. Even if you say you do, your choices don't really reflect that. Treat yourself better than how you've been treating yourself. You treat others with more consideration and forgiveness. Direct it to yourself.

Stop going with the flow (if you can). Go after what you want. Sure you do that with small things. How about trying it with bigger and more important stuff? Reward yourself with what you want.

Here's what you should try now.

You know your value. Go after opportunities that will recognize and will reward you with what you're worth. Everytime you go after something new that you don't know about, you allow others to dictate your value. And it's always, "you don't know anything about this job. Why should we pay you a lot when you don't know anything about it? You'll learn on the job." Stop allowing others to dictate your value when you keep getting into new things. Go after opportunities that you have expertise in. That way, you can be paid what your skills and talents are worth. Better yet, set your own price because you know your own worth.

Put your money where your mouth is. Be where you want to be. No apologies, excuses or explanations are necessary. You don't owe anyone that. In other words, please, please, PLEASE...

Be true to yourself. Stop overthinking things. You've always known what you want. Yet you always consider everyone and leaving yourself last. STOP. No one will give you a medal for being self-sacrificing.

Use your backbone more, your wishbone less. You can get more done that way. Wishing your life away is no way to live.

Take THAT step. Whatever you're afraid of. Life is full of surprises.

Give yourself what you want. Stop waiting for approval or permission. You've always played by the rules - other people's rules. It's time to break those rules because it's your life. Own it. They can shove their rules up their asses.

Great things are gonna happen soon. Get ready because awesome is yet to come.




June 15, 2016

What season are you grateful for?

I am grateful for winter.

As someone from a tropical country, I truly appreciate winter.

I love snow. I love waking up and seeing snow outside. I love coats, gloves, hats, scarves, boots and heavy coats and jackets. I love snowshoeing.

Waking up to the sight of snow makes me happy.

June 14, 2016

What sight are you grateful for today?

Bright and blue clear skies on my way to work this morning.

I actually looked at the sky in utter awe because it looked amazing. I doubt that I could capture it on my phone. Plus I was driving. All I could do was admire it from the driver's seat and be thankful. It made me think that I was going to have a beautiful day. Or at least, I can start my work day on a happy note because of what I've seen.

June 13, 2016

755

I've been noticing some numbers lately, but these numbers stood out today. I looked up angel numbers and here's what I got:
ANGEL NUMBER 755
Number 755 is a blend of the vibrations and energies of number 7 and 5, with the number 5 appearing twice, amplifying its influences. Number 7 relates to the esoteric and mystical, spiritual awakening and development, emotions and feelings, persistence of purpose and determination, discernment and positive intentions, inner-knowing and understanding others, empathic and psychic abilities, and education and learning. Number 5 brings its influences of making positive life choices and important changes, imagination and curiosity, cleverness and intelligence, life lessons learned through experience, courage and being courageous, adaptability and versatility, motivation and auspicious opportunities.
Angel Number 755 is a message to stay strong in the conviction of your choices and to do what is right for YOU. Do not allow other’s opinions, judgments or pressure to sway you off your course. Do not buy into someone else's idea of who and what you 'should' be. Discern for yourself as it is time for you to take your own power back and do what is right for you. Listen to your true feelings and emotions and know what is right for you and your life. Stay true to yourself.
Angel Number 755 brings a message from the angels that you are about to go through changes that will enrich you either physically, emotionally, spiritually or intellectually; or a combination of all. It will be a liberating and enlightening time for you and your angels rejoice with you. Know that they are with you, encouraging and supporting you along your path.
Live a life of amazing discoveries, wonders, experiences and achievements. Open yourself up to the world around you, and your capacity to relish it.
It's actually a beautiful reading.
Sometimes we forget to be true to ourselves because everyone keeps telling us who we are, what we should aspire for and where we should be heading. We just need to remember to drown out all the noise.

June 1, 2016

What smell are you grateful for today?

I'm not a big coffee drinker, but I have to admit the smell of coffee is wonderful!

There's just something so relaxing about it.

But if it's a smell that I'm grateful for on any other day, it will have to be the smell of baking bread and freshly baked bread. There's something so warm and comforting about it.


May 31, 2016

Challenge: 30 Days of Gratitude

My officemate knew I create lists of things I'm thankful about on a daily basis. Eventually, she suggested that I create a gratitude journal and sent me this pin.

I'll be posting in this blog based on the prompts above for this month of June. Let's see how it goes.

May 1, 2016

More than a year later...

It's been more than a year since I blogged here.

Too many things have happened since then. Going back seems a futile exercise. In a nutshell...

My dad died.

I delivered his eulogy upon my mom's request. Couldn't even finish it without crying. Up to now, I still can't believe that I won't see him anymore.

What else?

Some people's true colors came out after my dad died. Which I've long known about, but was unfortunately discovered by others only recently.

I became certain of certain things. Like love, friendship and loyalty. Those who cared for me were there for me. I'm so thankful for that.

The weird thing with grief? I realized no one really gets over it. Some days are good; others, bad. You just take each day as it comes.

Life is really about endings and beginnings. While the endings can be painful, it's necessary for something new to begin. 

March 3, 2015

Of Cooking and Baking

I remember a time when people wouldn't believe that I knew how to cook. (I vented about it here and here.) There were people who claimed to know me, but were surprised that I cooked. Eventually, I learned how to bake from scratch, a skill that surprised more people as I documented my experiments online.

I read this in a book about Leos: "...Only very few close friends will get to see the real side of a Leo's day-to-day life. To a Leo the home is a place of comfort, recreation and transformation; a secret, private retreat - a castle." In my case, it's very accurate.

Cooking for me is very personal and private. I don't cook for everyone. If I say that I'll cook for you or even without me saying so...if I'll learn your favorite recipe, then it means you're important to me. Baking is my alone time...all my thoughts are just focused on the recipe. I can spend hours in the kitchen baking away.

I'm just thankful that I ventured beyond cooking and tried baking.